Evan, as the publisher of Think Queerly, and as a white, gay, cis-male, I would invite you to think about your response in a slightly different way.
As a white man, you cannot know the lived expereince of a black queer man.
I invite you to read more about the racialization of people who are black in the LGBTQ community. This is a highly complex issue.
In fact, when you say to a black person, "I don't think you should generalize all white men as inherently the problem", you are, in fact, part of the problem.
Please read this very helpful post:
And finally, if you are still calm reading this, please know that I am NOT attacking you. I am doing my best to listen, to learn, to help, and in this case, to make the space on Think Queerly open, accepting, and supportive or more thought leaders like Shawn.