Such a massive topic that people have written entire dissertations about! One of the interesting aspects underlying your article is the exploration of the so-called feminine characteristics / qualities by men in the pursuit of beauty. I might suggest these are “outward” qualities, and as you suggest at the end, if more “men” embraced self-love, self-acceptance, as well as empathy (here more feminine qualities) they might take better care of themselves without needing to go to extremes.
This is a loaded topic, one that you could (will you?) keep exploring!