Victoria Smiser this was lovely, compelling, heartfelt, authentic, and wonderfully told.
The queer aspect of your story is the two of you clearly loved and deeply cared for each other. The two of you, from your telling, were meant to be together, however untraditional, however silent and unspoken some aspects of your relationship. But none of that matters to anyone BUT the two of you. If you two were happy, that is the point. Could either of you been happier? Who knows. I only know that you both made a choice, and for whatever reason, it probably served you both well.
I would love to have you publish this piece, as is, or with the most minimal of editing, on my publication. Just let me know if that interests you.