Why You Need to Take Risks to Set Yourself Apart

I remember when I watched the very first episode of Chef’s Table on Netflix. I had tears in my eyes at the end, not for sorrow, but for the truest expression of unbound, loving, heart-felt creativity that oozes from chef Massimo Bottura’s entire being.

It reminded me that you have to take risks in your art and craft, that you have to believe in yourself and your goals, that you might need a cheer-squad for those dark days, weeks, and maybe even years before you succeed.


Taking risks is not about trying to be different or trying to make a name for yourself. You can’t predict anyone will care, follow you, or even support what you do when motivated by the ego. If the ego doesn’t get recognition (“Hey, look at me!”) your efforts feel diminished.

Instead, taking risks means knowing what other people are doing and then not giving a fuck about what anyone else thinks.

Setting yourself apart doesn’t imply disrespecting what others have done who have gone before you. Nor does it mean being belligerent. I’m talking about taking the kinds of risk that are deeply felt within the core of your being. This is not the same as riding a rollercoaster or sky-diving, this is a risk of the soul, exposing your truth, your abilities, and your creative genius to the world.

If you want to create something truly great and of incredible value that will change and improve other people’s lives, you need to shut out all the voices, all the criticism, all the “You should do this” suggestions, trust your gut and risk it all.

I’m speaking to myself as much as I’m speaking to you…

True greatness comes with a razor-sharp cost. If you don’t slide back and forth across the blade, bleeding but still believing you can make it, you’ll fall back onto the side of regret and underwhelm, foetal on the ground, licking your wounds. What a shitty place to rest and that’s not where I want to be.

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Instead I Choose Discomfort

I’ve been uncomfortable for over a decade and I can’t stop now.

There is no turning back.

I’ve invested too much of myself, I’ve risked too much time, money, and energy to get to this point.

I’m still on that razor sharp edge of achieving my goals. I believe I will make it to the other side, scars and all. I believe in my own greatness and I’m stubborn enough to use that toughness to withstand the bleeding and discomfort.

Comfort Is the Antithesis of Transformation

We all need to be coached, mentored, cheered for, or guided in some way.

What I most need in my journey is not just quality guidance. I need to be challenged to play the game of risk. My coach need to see right through me, hears my stories and refuses to let me play the same record over and over.

Intuitively I feel I need to bring more creative risk into my daily thinking and endeavours to achieve my business and lifestyle goals. I need to remind myself that it’s ok to offend some people and not care. What I do, write, or say might not be an offence per se, but it might be shocking, different or bold.

Speak Up and Speak Out

I’m tired of not being enough of a vocal critic for the crap people are led to believe by heavily funded marketing campaigns, distortions of the truth, blatant lies, and sensationalist non-investigative reporting resulting in misinterpreted facts.

I’d rather have a small loyal following of people who I engage and challenge and who know I’m doing my best to transform their health and wellbeing, better than anyone else.

This is not because I have some proprietary system or because I’ve come up with a better way of working than others. I speak the truth because I understand the foundations. I’ve taken in all the good and eliminated the garbage to lay down a simple approach to live healthy and to buck misleading trends and fads.

Most importably I’m open to continuously learning new things and to being wrong.

When you work with me I’m going to challenge you to be your best. I’m going to ask you the deep questions to get to your truth. Not the surface reasons like, “I want to look good for the summer.” Fuck that!

Let’s work together to find out what makes you feel weird and awkward inside. You know that place, that physical response in your body when something scares the shit out of you. Or when you come to an awareness that could transform your life, an awareness that you know you knew, but have never “felt” so powerfully until that moment.

Some people have this physical response in their head, a pressure but not quite a headache. For others they feel it in the stomach, hence the expression, “a gut feeling.”

When I experience these moments (and I have had several in the last few weeks, more than I’ve had all year!), I feel it in my solar plexus. It’s that space slightly below the middle of my chest, the indentation below the middle of my ribs. It feels like an energy fog dispersing inside of my lungs; an inspiration of aspiration that feels like a shortness of breath, like when you have a quick intake of breath due to sudden shock or scare. It moves up to the underside of my ribs to “open me up” to that new feeling and state of awareness. It feels a bit uncomfortable but perfectly right at that moment.

You can change in an instant, but you need to want to make that change, discomfort and all.

It’s easy to stay healthy and fit by cooking your own meals, taking part in regular physical activity, getting quality sleep, and consciously taking care of your emotional wellbeing. I can show you how to start down this path in my 4 Pillars of Wellness Program.

Anyone can show you how easy it is to cook and exercise. There are literally thousands of bloggers and other professionals offering their expertise. That’s the status quo.

What I bring to the table is something bigger, much more life changing and transformative. This is how I coach by going deep below the surface to discover if you’re truly ready to change.

When you discover why you want to transform your health, the “why” that goes beyond the surface, beyond what everyone else wants (or thinks that you should want) that’s when you succeed at improving your health. That’s when transforming your health becomes as necessary as breathing, and the impetus behind all other great achievements in your life.

What could you accomplish if you had amazing health and fitness? What would that look like? How would your body feel? What kind of energy and focus would you have all day long?

If you already know that deep “why” I’d love to hear about it in the comments, below.

If you don’t know your “why” but you want to, if you want to be challenged to grow and transform into the best person you can become, if you’re ready to buck the status quo, I invite you to book a conversation with me. Let’s explore your potential and work together to manifest your greatness.

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Originally published at eatmovebe.com on September 6, 2016.

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I coach deep thinkers and creatives in cultivating their purpose to experience more freedom, impact, and joy in their lives. DarrenStehle.com.

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