Xmas-tential Questions: How to Have a Happy & Healthy Pandemic Holiday

How to create new traditions or scrap traditions and see things differently.

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If you depend on external circumstances for your happiness you’re going to have a very difficult time in life.

To be clear, I’m talking about happiness relating to the absence or presence of material things or events, not an emotional connection with people.

My experience of Christmas has changed over the years.

As a kid, duh, of course, I loved Christmas. I was brought up Catholic so there was also a religious element. When I began to question my faith around 16 or 17 and accepting myself as a gay man, not only couldn’t I see myself represented or accepted, I realized I could no longer believe in something that I had been taught to believe — as if being taught it from childhood were the reason for its unquestionable truth. Coming to terms with my sexuality and being a teenager meant rebellion, so I shunned all traditional holidays and wanted nothing to do with what I saw as a mindless acquiescence of traditional values.

What conditions can be met that will allow you to “revel” in those Christmassy holiday feelings that are based on historical significance?

  1. Why is Christmas so important to you?
  2. What are the three to five dominant emotions that you experience over the holiday? For bonus points, consider up to five positive and five negative emotions — because what are the holidays without drama?
  3. For each of those emotions, what ingredients have to come together to cook that recipe for you to experience each emotion?

These are truly “Xmas-tential questions!”

If I can offer some parting advice: the best gift you can give anyone this holiday is health and freedom from catching COVID-19. Call, Zoom, Skype… do it as much as you need to. Mail or drop off gifts, prepared meals, desserts, but don’t go into someone else’s home. This is ONLY one Christmas. We know that with all the vaccines already being delivered, and with more on the way, COVID-19 should be under control by late September 2021 — at least in Canada.

Now, more than ever, respect for other’s health and longevity is as important, if not more important, than your needs first.

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I coach deep thinkers and creatives in cultivating their purpose to experience more freedom, impact, and joy in their lives. DarrenStehle.com.

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