…siders himself one, can recruit him to a role or identity that may not reflect his self-perception. Having someone else re-frame your sense of self with a single word, even when that word is intended to express attraction or desire, can feel disorienting, even coercive.
M. J. Murphy
YES! The challenge is also realizing that you might fall into a perceived category or label, but you reject it. Others who find you the object of their desire are confused!
I’m thinking of 20-sumtin gays who, without asking, call me “Daddy” on Grider, when they see my age (52), when for me, nothing could be further than the truth!